Anxiety In Men

Is modern life making men more anxious?

When I started my practice I knew I would focus on anxieties, phobias and fears. I wanted to help change people’s lives by helping them with their negative thinking patterns and find a way for them to live the life they deserve. I though this specialisation in anxieties would lead to most of my clients being women. But the opposite is true. About 80% of my long term clients are men. They are very often successful men in the eyes of society, but because of pressures of their work, relationships, and society as a whole, for them, success does not equal happiness. It really made me realise that anxiety in men is a subject that is not talked about enough. The scale of men with anxiety is larger then you might imagine.


Gender roles and anxiety

If we look at today’s society, both men and women are pressured to fit into gender roles, which can be major causes of anxieties. Generally speaking, men are expected to be strong and supportive. They are required to provide for the family and have successful careers. This can result in men not spending enough time with their family, which can cause alienation from their partners and children. Being a man in today’s society is not easy. Showing any form of weakness is frowned upon. I hear from men many times that they are scared of being perceived as weak and their biggest fear is that they won’t be able to provide for their family.

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Being silent about anxiety

But all this does not really answer a question why there are more men then women approaching me for help with their anxieties. I do not think it is because men are more inclined to anxieties than women. I believe one of the major reasons is that men do not share their problems with their relatives and friends. A study showed that only 3% of men discuss their worries with their relatives compared to 54% of women. This makes sense as this points back to a fear of being perceived as weak or as a failure. Also seeking private help rather that going through NHS provides a freedom of choice to go for a therapeutic approach that is more flexible and confidential. I find that many people are scared to have any mention of anxiety on their medical records. One of my friends told me once, that as a therapist, you are the biggest secret of many people, which I believe is true because people share things with you that their relatives and friends will never know about. The most important is that anxieties can be dealt with, but we just need to start talking about them openly.


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